How to Spice Up Your Relationship and Keep Things Fresh
The longer we’re in a relationship, the more routine it starts to become, and the more we begin to tire and long for that initial butterflies-in-the-tummy, excitement we had at the start. It’s normal for this to happen if both partners slip into sloppy habits, and start to take each other (and their own selves) for granted.
But the good news is, there are plenty of ways to keep the chemistry alive and spice up your relationship—and I’m not just talking about having more sex. (Although, chances are some of these recommendations will lead to that!)
If you’re looking for a few ways to spice up your relationship and add a little more excitement to your time together, here are some things to try out.
While most ‘sexy’ text messages have about as much appeal as a dry-hump, there is indeed a way that you can make them work. Don’t go all X-Rated on your innocent iPhone, but try instead texting her about a memorable time you had sex – ‘I can’t stop thinking about that time on the the trick. Or a similar, innuendo-ridden one liner that’s personal to the two of you.
2.Do Something New
This could be just about anything you and/or your partner are curious about or have always wanted to experiment with. It could your kitchen, the shower, the hammock in your backyard, the back seat of your car, or a hotel.
Also, consider non-sexual pursuits. Sometimes taking up a new hobby together can fuel a renewed interest in intimacy simply by breaking your daily routine and allowing you to have different kinds of experiences together.
Stress has a great way of ruining sex lives through both psychological and physical means. Not everyone can have the luxury of taking time off work and heading to the beach, but there are little steps everyone can take to get themselves more in the mood. Banner recommends a pleasure-focused evening in complete with music, a couples bath or shower, and sensual massage.
4.Put Sex on the Calendar
Spontaneity can be overrated. If you and your partner are always waiting around for the perfect moment or for the mood to strike, you may be waiting around a lot, so sit down together and figure out when you both have time for sex and write it into your calendar.
And don’t just choose a date and time—make more specific plans: Choose a place. By setting the stage as much as possible beforehand, you also seed anticipation that can blossom into full-on arousal by the time you come together.
The build-up is a very important part, so pay attention to your partner and if necessary take things slow so your partner may catch up. Fool around with your wife and you will soon figure out what works best for you both.
6.Have sleep nights
So no one feels bad for possibly rejecting each other, choose a night/s during the week where no sex is to be had.
I know it might sounds boring but having some nights off can help to rekindle the spark. And with a few nights of solid sleep, there might be an increase in energy and overall satisfaction with sex too.
Condoms have become more advanced and can now add to your sensual pleasure and even help to spice things up. For those who are new to condom use, the Durex Easy On range, is shaped in a manner to make it easy to roll on and wear, while Durex Featherlite is ultra-fine for enhanced sensitivity and Durex Pleasuremax offers uniquely positioned ribs and raised dots for extra pleasure in all the right places.